Learning how to use a vibrator can be incredibly enjoyable, and a great way to explore what you (and your partner) enjoy most in the bedroom. The most important first step to this is to realise that owning a vibrator is completely normal!

Get to Know Your Vibrator

Once you have a vibrator, it’s time to get to know it. Take it out of its package and get to know how it works. If you it needs to be charged before its first use do that. If it takes batteries, find out what ones are best suited for it. Then play with the buttons, find out how many speeds and functions it may have. If you’re already turned on, then you’ll notice how pleasurable it feels from just holding it in your hands with it vibrating. It’s not just about turning it on. It’s about turning yourself  (& your partner if the case may be) on. Wash your toy thoroughly before you use it.

Start Out On Your Own

This may sound odd to some especially if you are planning on using the toy with your partner, but trust us on this. By starting out on your own, you’ll find you will be less self conscious when you bring your partner into the mix. This allows you to focus on how it feels for you without any added distractions. Set the scene for yourself so you can completely relax.

If you have roommates, children, thin walls or even that nosy neighbour that can never help themselves, try turning on some music, & use a blanket to help mute out any sound – also helps if you have chosen a quieter vibrator. Always ask the store to show you that the toy works before you leave the store with it, this also allows you to hear the noise level the vibrator will go to. No one finds the sound of a lawnmower sexy.

Explore Your Body – Don’t Rush It

Don’t jump straight into the main event. Take your time. Run the vibrator over your body. Arms, shoulders, neck, across your belly and scalp. You can even do this with your clothes still on. Although vibrators are mainly used mostly around the clitoris and the vulva, get a feel for the vibrations around your whole body then slowly move towards those more sensitive parts.

Vibrators don’t get tired (although you can burn it out, so just keep a look out for any overheating), they also allow you to explore your entire body sexually. Think of yourself as an explorer, and the vibrator is both your compass and your torch navigating you through sexual self discovery. This not only teaches you about yourself but in turn will help you communicate for efficiently with a partner. It’s a win, win for everyone!

Ready, Set, Go!

You will find majority of vibrators will have multiple speeds (really, who doesn’t like options!). Always start off on the lower setting and gradually build your way up. You may find that in certain parts of your body all you need is the lower setting and on others you may feel like stronger vibration is better. If you find the vibration setting to intense to begin with you can always prop a towel between you and the vibrator or just press lightly against your body. Experiment! From a feather light touch to a self-love smack down… find out what works where on your body.

Go Deeper

Penetration… Can seem like a scary thought for some. Start slowly. Top tip here is to get yourself aroused by using the vibrator externally first. This helps you and your whole body relax. Most of the your most sensitive nerve endings are found externally, lots of woman still enjoy the feel of the vibrations internally.

You can explore and stimulate the g-spot with an internal toy, and it has also been researched that nerve endings in the cervix respond positively to the stimulation and pressure from a vibrator. ALWAYS use a good quality water-based lubricant when ever using a vibrator for internal stimulation.

Have Fun

By using a vibrator you are learning many different levels of stimulation that works for you and your body and this then gives you the tools to feel comfortable and to openly communicate with a partner in the bedroom. Show them what you like. Remember a vibrator is there to enhance play time with a partner, not to replace them. And really there’s nothing better than to fall in love with your vibrator – again and again!!!